How Would You describe a Girl's Girl?
A Girl’s Girl can have different meanings as it varies by person and their take on the definition. These are the 7 most important things that I personally feel best describe the qualities of a Girl’s Girl.
A Girl’s Girl..1. Supports Women.
A Girl’s Girl wants to see other women win. Rallying for mutual success and happiness is true Girl’s Girl behavior. Supporting each other is free and it comes with no strings attached. Simply wanting to see other women reach their goals and be the best version of themselves radiates positivity. Being able to confidently support others also comes with being able to separate any comparison or measurement of success with your own. Success is not a race and regardless of how long it takes for each of us to reach our own level of success, having support is empowering and I truly believe that what you put out into the world will come back to you tenfold.
2. protects Women .
The world is and always has been a scary place for women. Standing up for other women is something that I will forever stand by. Sometimes that protection is needed from ourselves or even other women, but regardless, sticking up for each other will always be the right thing to do. There are far too many threats out there in the world and by standing up for one another and speaking up, we have the ability to change the narrative. Not speaking up when you hear or see something potentially threating to another woman can result in dangerous consequences and personally speaking, I will always stand up for women if I see someone backed up against a wall or my intuition alone tells me that something isn’t right.
3. Does Not View Other Women As Competition.
Competing with other women should never be a factor. When you are secure with yourself and know your worth there is no need for competition. No woman is better than the next and those that truly see themselves otherwise are more insecure than they would like to lead on. Once you tap into your self confidence and know your value, you diminish that insecurity of needing to compare yourself to others. A woman who can admire other women without comparison or criticism is a woman who is secure and sure of herself and all that she has to offer. We can be far too harsh on ourselves at times by trying to keep up with or attain the ridiculous beauty standards that society has painted for us on tv, magazines, and social media. There is no standard for beauty and we should not fall victim to insecurity by allowing such expectations to exist when real beauty cannot be measured or defined.
4. Advocates for Women.
“Each time a woman stands up for herself, without knowing it possibly, without claiming it, she stands up for all women.” - Maya Angelou.
Advocating for women can be as simple as showing support, sharing knowledge, or even just empowering women to rewrite their own narrative. Our voices have the ability to speak wonders and move mountains. Imagine all of the possibilities in a world where all women advocated for one another and cheered each other on, rather than tear each other down. Advocating for women does not need to be difficult or require extreme efforts, but by primarily respecting one another and truly seeing each other. It goes without saying that a Girl’s Girl would absolutely stand up for and promote women openly without reason.
5. Knows her Worth.
A true Girl’s Girl is going to be authentic and true to herself. She knows who she is and the power that she holds, but is still humble. She is someone who encourages, uplifts, and embraces women without judgement or comparison because she is content with who she is and does not require validation. A woman who settles for nothing less than she truly deserves and owes no apology for it. No one can define her, but her and her alone. Being true to who you are allows you to set yourself apart from the world and have control over your own identity. No woman should have to rely on the approval from others to justify or confirm her self-assurance, nor should she be required to lower her expectations of what she is deserving of in a relationship. To know your worth is to simply stay true yourself and recognize the value that you bring to the table without faltering to the harsh perceptions or judgments of others.
6. Is honest and Speaks her mind.
Being able to communicate and speak freely about what is on your mind will always be a respectable trait in my opinion. Some may perceive this kind of personality as someone who is blunt, outspoken, or has no filter, but from my point of view, I see this as someone who is openly honest and direct. A woman that is not afraid speak her mind and be candid, yet earnest, is absolutely a Girl’s Girl. I admit, sometimes the truth can be a hard pill to swallow, but the way I see it, it’s apparent who is truly genuine and sincere based off of how one conducts themselves. After all, how could one possibly be a Girl’s Girl if they are not frank, especially with their friends?
7. Does not project internalized Misogyny.
This has nothing to do with putting down or degrading men, but with holding women accountable to subconscious sexist stereotypes. There is no right or wrong way for a woman to behave and society overtime has simply turned women against each other based off of how we are conditioned to view women and their roles in society. A Girl’s Girl does not fall victim to projecting judgment on other women and how they live their life despite their differences. Associating expectations and ideas of what a woman is or should be based off of sexist stereotypes is bigotry. All women are unique and how she chooses to express herself and live her life on her own terms should not be criticized, especially by other women. Being subjected to or held to a higher standard than men and shamed if the patriarchal expectations are not met is just plain ignorant and hypocritical. Breaking free of such mindset is liberating and truly eye opening to how you as a women are perceived in the world.
The Gist
A common misconception with being a Girl’s Girl is the idea that this means prioritizing or favoring women over men and putting friendships before relationships, which I don’t agree with at all. I genuinely feel that being a Girl’s Girl in its simplicity is respecting and advocating for other women and breaking away from toxic habits that create a divide or sense of hostility between women altogether. In retrospect, if all women treated each other the same way drunk girls act in the bathroom at the bar, then there would be no conflict amongst us! Now, I do have to say, I am a firm believer in matching energy, so if I smile at another woman and get a dirty look back, they definitely won’t be getting the royal Girl’s Girl treatment from me. Just because you are a Girl’s Girl, does not mean you have to tolerate rude or caddy behavior from other women. Real recognizes real and the same thing goes for recognizing a true Girl’s Girl out in the world. In short, my personal interpretation merely describes a Girl’s Girl as someone that knows who she is, respects women and their individualities, as well as both celebrates and supports women without constraints.
I would love to hear what a Girl’s Girl means to you! Thank you for reading! ♡
